tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post6413891930961100146..comments2023-10-20T03:56:14.594-07:00Comments on Creating While Waiting: Three Little WordsWhitneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03073181050222573360noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-14208938115516012012-04-24T20:56:00.730-07:002012-04-24T20:56:00.730-07:00Sally, please feel free to share! Melanie, it was...Sally, please feel free to share! Melanie, it was so fun to meet you at the park! And just so you know, we so appreciated the tactful, kind way you asked us about how our adoption was going! We seriously commented later that night how kindly you approached the subject.Whitneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02999802705013967764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-30354677640976250262012-04-24T17:57:55.254-07:002012-04-24T17:57:55.254-07:00I love this post. Thanks for pouring out your fee...I love this post. Thanks for pouring out your feeling and making those of us who are not very tactful (or educated on the subject) see it in a new light.<br /><br />(BTW, I am a friend of Lisa's. I met you at the park that day you were visiting her.)Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734177506438734993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-5202062145951492792012-04-23T15:45:01.160-07:002012-04-23T15:45:01.160-07:00This is amazing! I wish my neighbor, who told me ...This is amazing! I wish my neighbor, who told me that she hated being pregnant and would "just adopt" next time because "it's easier" had read this. May I please, please share a link to this on my blog? (sdavisfordham at gmail dot com)Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02153466829220478422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-18268125664534361062012-03-23T09:09:01.877-07:002012-03-23T09:09:01.877-07:00It was great to read this post and many of the com...It was great to read this post and many of the comments. *Life* is hard. I did one cycle of IVF and lost the babies at nine weeks; it was incredibly hard on my wife and I, yet junior varsity stuff compared to what many of you have been through. Now we're "just" adopting (we're waiting to be selected). We always thought it would be a great experience, but we were as naive as anyone about how hard it would be. Sometimes naivete protects you, though. I'm glad we were silly enough to think it would be easy, because I'm still confident it will be great.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-41232595215187874152012-03-22T06:59:54.248-07:002012-03-22T06:59:54.248-07:00As a woman who has both given birth, suffered earl...As a woman who has both given birth, suffered early infant loss of our first born child, experienced a miserable 3 years of unexplained secondary infertility AND rode the emotional ride of adoption for 2 years before being graced with a surprise pregnancy ... all your words are true.<br /><br />Pregnancy is hard. A subsequent pregnancy after infant death is hard beyond words.<br /><br />Adoption is hard. Adoption is frustrating and anything but easy.<br /><br />All any waiting parent can do is hope that either the trials of pregnancy or adoption will all be worth it in the end when a healthy, crying little baby is placed into their waiting arms. <br /><br />Waiting for parenthood, no matter your path, is a journey that makes us all our own rock stars.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03740847681453723883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-49587136893327533922012-03-21T17:52:20.179-07:002012-03-21T17:52:20.179-07:00I am the mother of 4 (3 through pregnancy of the w...I am the mother of 4 (3 through pregnancy of the womb & 1 through pregnancy of the heart). After delivering 3 children we were told we could have no more ourselves. We were devastated & determined to finish our family. I had terribly rough pregnancies. BUT...NOTHING compares to holding, feeding, loving, & experiencing ecstatic joy over the adoption of a new child to them learn that your baby's birth mom has changed her mind & after 52 hours of falling in love with a new son you have to take him back (we understood her feelings too). We experienced the death of a potential child, and this after having already experienced 5 other failed adoptions. Adoption IS NOT EASY!!! By the time we welcomed our youngest son to our family we had waited over 4 years & had suffered the loss of 6 other potential children. I wish people would "just" think before they speak! No one should pass judgement on a situation they TRULY know NOTHING of. Thank you for this post, I wish you & your sweet wife all the best!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01667018496759225259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-41610895829819419602012-03-21T13:49:28.566-07:002012-03-21T13:49:28.566-07:00Just read your post I found on another girls' ...Just read your post I found on another girls' blog. I enjoyed it a lot and couldn't agree more. We have both adopted and have biological children. I must say they are both very difficult and yet very different experiences - both worth it. Your perceptions were right on. Thanks for putting your thoughts into words. It's posts like this that help enlighten us all and educate us on how we should treat and love others. Good luck in your journey!Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17606680488694431861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-73878277953575766772012-03-21T11:29:19.977-07:002012-03-21T11:29:19.977-07:00As an adoptive mother of two amazing little boys, ...As an adoptive mother of two amazing little boys, I must say this is one of the best blog posts I have ever read.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14956207034525020801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-47798075579427043532012-03-21T00:50:30.576-07:002012-03-21T00:50:30.576-07:00Well said, Spencer. Well said. You should post m...Well said, Spencer. Well said. You should post more often. :)Lanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14218392966965285103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-27464476358266394872012-03-20T22:45:11.776-07:002012-03-20T22:45:11.776-07:00Beautifully said. I should copy this comment for a...Beautifully said. I should copy this comment for a guest blog post. :)Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-43510910505920434292012-03-20T22:42:41.723-07:002012-03-20T22:42:41.723-07:00I humbly give a standing ovation to this post, to ...I humbly give a standing ovation to this post, to Spencer, and to Whitney. *Applause*Lara Zierke https://www.blogger.com/profile/14678809883294746934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-40413000887509700062012-03-20T19:08:00.119-07:002012-03-20T19:08:00.119-07:00Thank you for you comment.Thank you for you comment.James and Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06241261834198797392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-56497375627632580452012-03-20T18:55:37.157-07:002012-03-20T18:55:37.157-07:00I was not done, but blogger kicked me off :)
Anyw...I was not done, but blogger kicked me off :)<br /><br />Anyway... I would die for my son that came to us through the miracle adoption. I would kill for him! He is a part of my soul in the same way his brothers are. But to think of the hell we walked through, shakes me to my core. Adoption is no walk in the park. Just recently a very close friend mentioned "just adopting" and I think I sobbed for for days when I thought of what she was implying. <br /><br />Good luck you guys!! Adoption is so hard. So so so hard, and so freaking incredible..From Her.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16353055716653778981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-84483838151992609812012-03-20T18:50:29.080-07:002012-03-20T18:50:29.080-07:00Holy smokes!!! I loooove this. So much.
I am a mo...Holy smokes!!! I loooove this. So much.<br /><br />I am a mother to three (one in heaven) biological sons, and one through adoption. I have straight up been told I would die if I ever pursue pregnancy. Ever.<br /><br />And just about every single day, I try to talk myself into getting pregnant "just one more time" because the mere thought of "just adopting" one more time, scares the daylight out of me----literally more than death. Truthfully..From Her.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16353055716653778981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-14405713168078268052012-03-20T14:57:34.562-07:002012-03-20T14:57:34.562-07:00Great post Spencer, totally agree! Not to get off ...Great post Spencer, totally agree! Not to get off topic but it reminds me of how much it bugs me when people say, "I'm just a stay at home mom" or "she's just a stay-at-home mom". Hope things are still going well with the adoption of your little boy- keeping both you and Whitney in our prayers!Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02206367195046441148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-48046894600090956042012-03-20T14:32:06.027-07:002012-03-20T14:32:06.027-07:00What a great post Spencer! Very insightful and wel...What a great post Spencer! Very insightful and well said!! Sometimes I wish people who say things like that would JUST keep their comments to themselves;)Lynley Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06848354016070512123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-57396317420552982432012-03-20T14:31:46.770-07:002012-03-20T14:31:46.770-07:00This was perfect. My husband have been approved an...This was perfect. My husband have been approved and are now in the hoping to adopt phase and couldn't have loved this more. Thanks!Landon and Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13316971860461640441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-27824557763356707202012-03-20T14:27:03.000-07:002012-03-20T14:27:03.000-07:00So well put. Hit the nail on the head.So well put. Hit the nail on the head.Talltiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15563792820418072129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-80415729212859920242012-03-20T13:59:23.057-07:002012-03-20T13:59:23.057-07:00Okay. I'm chiming in.
I am an adoptive mothe...Okay. I'm chiming in.<br /><br />I am an adoptive mother. And I'm a mother through fertility treatments. I have done both the adoption thing and the pregnancy thing.<br /><br />I'm going to be very, very honest.<br /><br />After my son was born, I took him home and sat down in bed looking at him. We were going to have him named and blessed in a month, then things were going to get back to normal. I didn't have a birth mom to call, I didn't have a caseworker to check in on, I felt like sh*t and quite honestly, I found myself looking at my son wondering, "What? That's it?"<br /><br />I was a wreck with my son because it. was. too. easy. My daughter had been such a life and death struggle, I EARNED the title of "Mother" and dammint, I was glowing with such joy and pride and accomplishment, my life was so filled with this amazing love and miracle that I couldn't believe how blessed I was.<br /><br />We're ready to add a third child to our family (shhhh) and we are doing the treatments again.<br /><br />Why?<br /><br />Because it's so. much. easier. <br /><br />I would rather spend five months with my head in a toilet, be on bed rest for ten months, spend five more months with crippling braxton hicks and then go into labor and try to push a seven pound baby out a hole the size of a baseball than find the courage and fortitude to adopt again.<br /><br />Quite honestly, I'm not strong enough to do it again. Adoption was a beautiful, amazing experience that I cannot believe I was blessed enough to get to take a part in. I feel badly for people who ONLY experience pregnancy because, wow, it's a gift. They don't get to adopt.<br /><br />But really, being in labor, having medical complications, pain, discomfort, vanity issues are a small price to pay for the gift at the end. I went through my disastrous pregnancy with a grin and a tear in my eye because I KNEW how blessed I was. I cried when my labor was coming to an end because I couldn't believe how little I'd had to sacrifice for what was coming. <br /><br />I didn't just adopt.<br /><br />I earned my wings.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01263222190554094815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-28276479069483693822012-03-20T13:59:17.597-07:002012-03-20T13:59:17.597-07:00Can I share this on my blog? I will give you cred...Can I share this on my blog? I will give you credit.<br /><br />Shelby<br />hope2adoptbaby@yahoo.comhope2adoptbabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02439733484916833465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-19355819564522619482012-03-20T13:54:52.373-07:002012-03-20T13:54:52.373-07:00I'm with Kenna. Awesome post, and I'm shar...I'm with Kenna. Awesome post, and I'm sharing.hope2adoptbabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02439733484916833465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-45757188925983676862012-03-20T13:45:56.617-07:002012-03-20T13:45:56.617-07:00Holla!Holla!Chelsi Lasaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01093549216259106179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-70466938756037825422012-03-20T13:45:32.057-07:002012-03-20T13:45:32.057-07:00this is possibly the best post i have ever read on...this is possibly the best post i have ever read on the matter.<br /><br />truly.<br /><br />i shall share this with everyone we know.kennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03706789932352969204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-34847203236450042482012-03-20T11:09:59.213-07:002012-03-20T11:09:59.213-07:00Amen! Couldn't have said it better!Amen! Couldn't have said it better!Jewlshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04727641332169335552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6892867383611238981.post-67093819264687525012012-03-20T10:02:48.399-07:002012-03-20T10:02:48.399-07:00Your phrase "It’s the flippant manner in whic...Your phrase "It’s the flippant manner in which adoption is tossed around by those who aren’t truly considering it." is perfect. In September 2009 we, as the Relief Society presidency, went to visit a neighbor of mine who was in the early stages of her first pregnancy. We sat as she described her many complaints and then she said *those* words, and laughed. <br /><br />Only days before, Que and I had learned that our adoption was in serious trouble. At that point we were about 6 weeks from Liam's due date. It took everything in me not to cry, and to not interrupt her and tell her there was no such thing as "just adopting." Adoption is HARD, even if everything works out the way you'd like it to in the end.Que and Brittany's Adoption Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02584631461178087768noreply@blogger.com