Sunday, July 24, 2011



Hello?… Is anyone still there?

I realize it’s been far too long since I’ve updated ye ole’ blog.  We’ve been, you know, packing, packing, packing, moving, unpacking, unpacking, unpacking, visiting with family, starting a new job, getting settled, STARTING ADOPTION PAPERWORK (WOOT), and making friends.

But, I’ve truly missed my blog friends :) I used to think it was kind of corny when people said that.  I thought it was kind of strange to have a “friendship” with someone you had never even met in person.  I get it now.  Frankly, I don’t know tons and tons of people that are going through infertility.  I know even fewer that have adopted/are hoping to adopt.  It has been a comfort to me to “meet” women who are experiencing the same things I am.  It’s refreshing to connect with people who completely get it.  Your sweet comments always brighten up my day.  Truly, I love hearing what is going on in your lives.  I never expected to find such support, but I’m grateful. 

I have been evaluating my life lately.  Big changes always lead to deep introspection, and a twenty-four hour drive to our new home gave me lots of opportunity for thinking. 

All this thinking led to a sort of quarter-life crisis.  It sometimes scares me that I am twenty-five and still not entirely sure what I want to do with the rest of my life.  I keep plugging along, but sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever “get there.” 

One night in frustration, I pleaded with God to know what he wants me to be.  I told him I would do anything, however impossible it may seem.  The answer was clear.  “I don’t want you to do the impossible, I just want you to be Whitney.” 

Being a good wife, daughter, sister, aunt, young women’s leader, and friend is enough.  I may not do anything remarkable, but that's okay.  Most of us are just ordinary people trying to do our best, right?

Enjoy what you have.

I’ve been trying to do just that.  The time spent with family was so precious to me.  I am so blessed to have such a sweet husband.  I am so grateful for the miracles our family has experienced lately.  I’ve been trying to scale back on the superfluous things and really enjoy the special blessings in my life right now. 

I don’t expect I’ll be posting on this blog as often for the next little while.  We’re focusing on building our family right now, so we’re going to try and do a better job of keeping up our adoption blog.  You can find me over there :)

And if it isn’t too much to ask, could you do me a favor?  If you haven’t already done so, could you add our adoption button to your blog/become a follower of our adoption blog?  It’s a little embarrassing to ask, I’ve never been one to toot my own horn or put a plug in for myself, but we know that we need the help and support of our friends to find our baby. 

The more buttons that are out there, the more opportunities for potential birth parents to find us.  The more followers we have, the more traffic that flows to our blog.  It’s quite humbling for me to ask for help, but I can do it for our baby. 


  1. Yay! Yay for starting the adoption paperwork! Yay for your new home and job! Yay for being Whitney (one of my favorite people!)! Yay for new posts here and on your adoption blog! I love you! You always inspire and lift me up! :)

  2. Totally understand the intimidation of feeling like you're "selling yourself" BUT I know that it works! We'll keep you guys in our prayers! :)

  3. So I had this dream last night that you and Spencer got divorced and I woke up feeling so devastated. After thinking about it for a minute, I realized that you two are a wonderful couple and I like you a lot. I'm sad we never worked out a road trip to Texas. Perhaps a road trip to Idaho is in order!

  4. You word things beautifully, Whitney. Loved reading this post today.

  5. That's a great picture and resulting thoughts on the blog post. Thank you. Where is that picture taken, anyway?

  6. Whitney, I'm so glad to read a post and see what you two are up to. I know I've never met you, but I do consider you my friend. It really is so nice to know someone and share feelings about infertility. Because, well people who don't have infertility-just don't get it.
    I'll be spreading the word about your adoption button, I really wish the best for you two.
    It's pretty interesting, as I read your posts, I am thinking a lot of the same things. What does God have in store for me if it's to not be a mom-quite yet. Thank goodness, he's always there to listen to us and that he knows what's best for us in the long run. I'm trying to learn patience. I say trying because it's so true. It's so hard. But, sorry to write a novel. Thanks for your post and your sweet comment on my blog.:)

  7. I know the pain and struggle you may be going through. We tried, begged, pleaded and sobbed to have a baby. It felt unfair and sometimes just devastating that we didn't get to have a family. After 6 years we decided to adopt. We had a baby in our arms 8 months later due to a family member who was to young. We were thrilled. 3 years later we were blessed with a pregnancy and another beautiful daughter. I tell you our story not to hurt you but to give you hope. Our Heavenly Father has a plan. We know that we chose our first born and that her path to get to our family had to be this way. Adoption is such an honored way to come into a family. I don't know where your path will lead, but no matter how long it takes cling onto your husband and your faith because it will get you through.