Analogy

To be honest we aren’t the biggest celebrators of Valentines Day around here.  GASP.  I know.  We don’t hate V Day by any means, we just don’t do a whole lot to mark the holiday.  We’re not scrooges or anything, we just don’t go all out. 

Since our family received our recent sad news, it seems like infertility has been especially biting.  And I was doing so well too!  Most people have been so kind to us and sensitive to our loss.  But there are always some that don’t understand.  Some who don’t know how we could possibly mourn the loss of a baby that was never ours. 

Let me assure you, we can.  The pain we have felt over losing the baby we had waited for for three years and planned on for three months was very real.  It was the loss of a dream.  Again.  Believe me, just because I wasn’t pregnant does NOT mean that our loss was any less excruciating.  Please, please, do not diminish what we are going through.

So what does all this have to do with Valentines Day?

Valentines day: Singles :: Mothers day: Infertiles

Our recent family trauma has reminded me, yet again, of all the others who also wait.  Waiting can be so hard.  Reminders can be so painful. 

It has been hard to wait for little ones to come to our family.  But thank goodness I have my Spencer!  I know so many wonderful, amazing, people who are still waiting to find their sweethearts.  Who would love to be married and have a family of their own, but who have not had the opportunity.  Their wait is difficult too.  And I guess my mind is just on those sweet friends of mine today. 

Love is a great thing to celebrate!  I guess I am just mindful of those who don’t have someone to celebrate with.

I hope all my friends, especially the ones who are waiting, have a wonderful happy day!